Let's Talk About BDSM Spanking
So you have been asked by your partner to try spanking or maybe you have always wanted to try it but you aren't sure what exactly to try. Spanking is one of the first things that people try when they get into the world of BDSM but it can also be intimidating because it is one of the first things you will do that includes hitting your partner, albeit in a playful manner. Today we are going to take a look at some tips that you can use for BDSM spanking.
Talk About Spanking First
Spanking is typically not something you should try before you talk about it in your relationship. Not everyone likes spanking and sometimes people view spanking as demeaning in a bad way. Bring up with your partner the fact that you want to try BDSM spanking but make sure that you also mention why. The topic of why you want to try spanking can convince your partner that you have a friendly mindset.
Another thing that is important to discuss is your limits. You don't want to be spanked too hard or spank your partner harder than they are comfortable with. In addition, some BDSM actions can turn people off and that is the last thing you want to do when you are in bed.
BDSM Spanking Is Different From Traditional Spanking
When a lot of people try spanking in bed it is a small, sensual tap. BDSM spanking may start that way but most people who engage in BDSM spanking usually includes harder slaps. Sometimes even to the point where marks are left. In addition to that, while most vanilla spanking is just done for fun, BDSM spanking is done as punishment too.
Start Small, Work Up
Instead of going straight to spanking your partner as hard as you can you should start off with small taps. Work your way up gradually over a session or a few sessions. This will help you to gauge your strength but also for you to learn how hard you both enjoy spanking.
Try Spanking in Multiple Positions
Try spanking your partner in a variety of positions. Spanking while standing up, bend them over your knee, bend them over a couch or another surface, spank them while they are laying down, etc. There are quite a variety of different spanking positions for you to try. Each position brings along with it its own experience. Different positions convey different emotions and purposes.
This tip actually has two meanings. The second part of multiple positions means multiple positions on the body. Spanking on the same part of the ass repetitively will build a bruise up and will hurt more. Try to move from cheek to cheek and taking small pauses between slaps.
Try Roleplaying While You Spank
Roleplaying while you spank can really change the mood. Instead of just spanking your partner or receiving a spank, have a character or role that you are going to play. Talk with your partner as you are starting to play and suggest some roles.
If you want you can also try starting the roles by talking a specific way or wearing something fun (Think sexy nurse outfit or a schoolgirl uniform). We commend talking, especially in the beginning of your exploration with BDSM spanking and roleplay because it helps you to discover your partner's likes and desires.
Don't Forget The Aftercare
Aftercare is the time you spend after your scene caring for your partner and your relationship. It is one of the biggest things that people who are new to the BDSM world forget. The problem with forgetting is that it can quickly put a strain on a relationship when you don't relax and share some time together afterward that isn't connected with the spanking.
The exact aftercare that you practice doesn't matter as much as that you do something with your partner. You may take the time to clean up together and talk, or get each other something from the kitchen. One of the most common forms of aftercare though is cuddling.
Take a look at these tips because many of them are very important. For example, skipping aftercare is not something that should be done. You will learn even more about BDSM spanking as you start to practice it. One of the most common ways to learn is by practicing!