What Is Top From The Bottom In BDSM?
The BDSM world is huge with many different types of play, just about any kink can be made to fit into the world of BDSM. At the most simple level BDSM includes almost any type of play that includes a power play. However, many people will not consider a play that is close to vanilla as BDSM but it is. For some BDSM is something that they just like to do sometimes while for others it is either a lifestyle or fetish. We want to help you to better understand the world of BDSM so we are going to break down a few terms - What is top from the bottom in BDSM?
By the end of the article, we are going to answer the question, what is top from the bottom in BDSM? Before we do that though we are going to take a look at what a top is and what a bottom is. Understanding both of these roles will help you to better understand the term "top from the bottom."
What is A Top?
In general, a top refers to someone who likes to be on top during sexual play. This term is commonly used in vanilla relationships, especially in the gay world. However, when it comes to BDSM it often also refers to the person who is in control of a scene or the dominant person. Dominant, when referring to the person in charge, is often shortened to Dom. If you are unsure of whether the person is referring to being the dom or just being on top it may help to ask to clarify but in most BDSM cases top means the person in charge.
What is A Bottom?
Like with a top, the term bottom when it comes to vanilla sex is pretty straightforward, it is the person on the bottom. In BDSM, the term bottom refers to the submissive in the BDSM relationship. You may also hear them referred to as the sub. Both terms came about because they are logically seen as the person on top is in charge and the one on the bottom following.
Top From the Bottom
So what then is top from the bottom? The term isn't as straightforward as the other two as being a top from the bottom can mean one of two things. The most common thing is when a bottom takes control of a situation, such as a dominant person liking being tied up but still giving all of the orders and remaining in charge.
The other common meaning of the term is when the person on the bottom is a submissive but takes charge. Very similar situations but it comes down to how the person on the bottom views themselves. For example, many bottoms, even when controlling, won't view themselves as a top or Dom.
BDSM is a big world and there are a lot of different roles out there. One more role is the switch. Instead of being a top from the bottom, a switch is a person whose role switches based on the scene or who they are with. For example, one type of scene they may like being controlled while in another scene they may like being in charge. Rarely does a switch change in the middle of a scene though unless it is planned.
Now you know another term from the BDSM world, top from the bottom. There are still plenty of other roles out there and more for you to learn. Make sure to check out some of our other articles to learn even more about BDSM. You never know what you might learn and start enjoying.