Tips for Newcomers to Approach Online BDSM Dating
Diving into the world of online dating is a daunting prospect for most, yet it can feel even more intimidating for those wishing to experience online sex dating with a BDSM twist. Yes, online BDSM dating is a thing and becoming increasingly popular amongst the BDSM community.
While nothing quite compares to BDSM in person, circumstances often don't make this possible, such as being in a long distance relationship or living somewhere that doesn't have a thriving BDSM community. Maybe you simply want to try your hand at BDSM and feel that meeting someone online is the best way to pursue it!
In any case, online BDSM dating is a great option for many people, especially those new to the subculture. However, getting started can be challenging, so we have created a comprehensive beginner's guide to help you get started.
Stay Safe
Safety is one the most important aspects of BDSM and this is no different online. While there may be fewer physical risks due to the interactions taking place online, there are certainly safety factors that must be considered, some that you may overlook.
The first safety tip applies to any type of online sex dating - do not give out any personal information. Even if you feel comfortable with the person you are chatting to, never take the risk, waiting several weeks or months before even considering doing this.
Anyone that asks for personal info like a name or address should respect your choice to remain anonymous. Those that don't and continue to hassle should be avoided at all costs, especially if they are pestering you only after a few days of meeting online.
There are some safety tips to remember if you are exchanging photos or videos, which we will discuss below.
What to Expect from Online BDSM Dating?
Before you get started it helps to know what to expect from online BDSM dating. Of course, there is a lot of kinky chat and roleplaying between people, with most of the online BDSM community being incredibly open and welcoming to newcomers.
In terms of what aspects of BDSM you might experience, it depends entirely on the people you interact with, your own kinks, and whether you are going to meet in person.
When it comes to online sexting and chatting, you can actually experience a lot of BDSM without ever meeting people in person. For example, submissive and dominant role playing is prominent with online BDSM dating sites and forums.
Here, each person takes on their desired BDSM role but instead of doing things in person you do it remotely. There are many ways to do this, as we will outline below.
Start Looking on BDSM Dating Apps and Websites
Before we get into the various aspects of BDSM you can experience online, it helps to know where to find like-minded people to pursue these experiences. Thankfully, there are numerous BDSM dating sites and apps that are perfect for meeting people within the BDSM community.
We have quite a few recommendations for BDSM dating sites, apps, and personals!
Texting and Messaging
A great place for beginners looking to try online BDSM dating is texting/instant messaging. Whether using a dating app, chat room, or forum, this is a great way to experience dom and sub roles without needing to meet a person.
For example, if you are the submissive role then your dom could send you text messages telling you to do something kinky. Of course, how could they possibly know that you are complying with their instructions?
Well, one way is to just continue to chat and let your imaginations take over, although you could try something a bit naughtier….
Sending Photos
If you are trying some cyber BDSM roleplaying, then taking photos is a great way to up the ante and keep the passion burning. Following on from our previous example about texting and messaging, when the dom sends you instructions you can show them a kinky photo of you completing the task.
It doesn't need to be an instruction from a master either. If you know what your online partner likes, consider sending a naughty photo out of the blue to give them a welcome surprise. In any case, remember to be careful about what you show in the photo - consider hiding your face to make sure you can't be identified.
Self-BDSM
Finally, one of the most exciting ways to experience BDSM online sex is self-BDSM. This is basically a video chat or exchanging of photos where you or your partner shows aspects of self-imposed BDSM. It could be tying your self up, wearing a ball gag, using a sex toy - anything that caters to your kinks works fine!