How to Find a Professional Dominatrix? A Step-by-Step Guide
Dominatrixes/Mistresses are women who enjoy taking on a dominant role in a relationship. For some dominatrixes, they perform their services professionally, earning money by telling men what to do. Such mistresses are highly sought after, even if most men don't discuss their desire for a dominant woman.
Just because these mistresses are highly sought after, doesn't mean people know how to find them or how to go about it. A lot of men who are interested in a dominatrix's services end up Googling something along the lines of "how to hire a professional dominatrix." Today we are going to look at some of the best tips to help men find a professional mistress.
Search for a Professional Mistress
If you are looking to hire a dominatrix it is best that you hire a professional. Hiring anything less than a professional means you are more prone to finding scams. You likely also won't get the same experience. In general a professional is a safer experience unless you are looking for a dating partner to be a dominatrix.
Virtual Vs. In-Person
The age of the internet allows for dominatrixes to offer their services virtually. They can dominate you well over webcam and the experience can be just as enjoyable.
At the same time, an in-person experience is much more tactile. Some people enjoy it a lot more. Before you look for a dominatrix, you should decide what you are looking for. Finding an in-person professional dominatrix can be harder. It takes more work and not every dominatrix offers in-person services.
Look In The Right Places
With the power of the internet there are a lot of places you can look for a professional dominatrix. Without knowing where to start though you will likely come across fakes and scams. Here are some places to look.
Mistress Sites
There are plenty of mistress sites that are set up specifically to connect men with dominatrixes. Sometimes these sites are labelled as dating sites but they are more a mix of a dating site and directory. Use lists and reviews to locate the best dominatrix sites.
BDSM Communities
BDSM community is a great place to find people of all walks of life. Most BDSM communities have areas to list advertisements/personals. Professional dominatrixes come to locations like these because they know they are likely to find people who are serious about D/s relationships on such a site.
Personal Sites
Some dominatrixes have their own websites. These are often a great resource if you live near a major area or if you have a specific dominatrix in mind. Sites offer all sorts of information on a dominatrix and are the best place to go if you can locate them. You will find information such as their location, their kinks, what they offer, how much they charge, rules, etc. Sites will also often have guidelines for first encounters.
Cam Sites
A lot of webcam model sites or cam sites have dominatrixes on them looking for submissives. While you will have to talk to models and see if they are interested in the same thing, you do have a great advantage on these sites. With cam sites you can see the person and talk to them beforehand. You can also pay for small amounts of time up front.
Dominatrixes Cost Money and Time
A dominatrix costs a fair amount of money. Especially if they are a popular one and one who is in person. Before engaging in your search for a professional dominatrix, it might be wise to have some money saved up. Hiring a webcam dominatrix can be a lot cheaper.
In-person dominatrixes often require a submissive to do certain things before having a session. That could involve a meetup to discuss the situation. Some require tributes. In any case, it could help a lot to be prepared to not have a session right away. Serious, and potential long-term, online dominatrixes might also require this.
Dominatrixes Are Still People
Dominatrixes are still people. When you go to talk to one on the internet or in person, it is important that you begin the conversation with a friendly greeting and leave out any talk of sex or kink. Dirty talk of any kind will be a major way to shut down the conversation. Especially since most locations do not allow sex and that isn't what professional dominatrixes are offering anyways.
Offer a greeting, compliment them on something, and let them know you are interested in their services. Some dominatrix ads will specify that they want a tribute or some sign of seriousness. Make sure to follow anything they request.
Don't Waste Their Time
A professional dominatrix will guide you through the process of working with them. They are open to questions and you should ask them. What you don't want is to make them feel like you are wasting their time. That means don't ask the same question, don't focus on specific acts if you have already gone over ideas (unless she says you can).
Rules
Professional dominatrixes all have rules, even if they don't have a site that lists them. If there is a profile or listing for the dominatrix, they will likely have rules regarding how to contact them.
If a dominatrix does not have rules listed or does not have a profile, it is important to ask about these relatively quickly. It will help establish how the conversations are going to go and what you should/shouldn't ask.
Educate Yourself
It is fine to be new to the world of D/s relationships and BDSM but you should make at least some attempt to educate yourself before looking to hire a professional dominatrix. It will show that you are committed to learning. You have already shown that you are on your way to learning by reading this article.
In addition to educating yourself, be upfront and let the dominatrix know that you are new. This will let them know how to approach the interaction. Most will ask how much experience you have anyways.
Tipping is Normal
When you engage the services of a professional dominatrix you will pay a fee. The fee varies depending on the services, the dominatrix, and the area. You should be prepared to tip your dominatrix above those fees. Of course your tip will vary based on the service but in general you will want to leave a good tip.
This is especially important if you are asking for something that takes a lot of work or is outside of their normal.
Communicate Your Boundaries
Communicating your boundaries upfront is crucial. You do not want to have the person you are paying to do something you are not paying for or do not want. Miscommunicating your boundaries can also lead to problems later on.
Hiring a professional dominatrix can be quite fun. It is an experience that a lot of submissives will enjoy greatly. They are also not cheap. If you are interested in a professional dominatrix it is important to spend some time searching for them and find the one that is just right for you.