7 Beginner-Friendly BDSM Sex Positions to Try in Your Bedroom
Exploring the world of BDSM sex for the first time is equal parts exciting and intimidating. Most people have pre-conceptions about what to expect from BDSM sex, with fetish gear, an array of sex toys, and all sorts of crazy sex positions often the first thing they think of.
While there is certainly some truth to these, BDSM dating is not as intimidating as most assume. Yes, experienced members of the BDSM community often enjoy activities that are considered extreme by normal standards, yet for people getting started there is a surprisingly beginner-friendly entry to BDSM dating.
There are outfits, props, and roles to play, but most people getting started will explore some of the more basic aspects of the BDSM subcultures. This means you won't need to worry about getting suspended from a sex wing while gagged and bounded (there is always time to get there!), instead focusing on some activities that are not too far from your regular sex life.
BDSM sex positions are perhaps the best place to start. While there are certainly some elaborate positions that require minor experience as a contortionist, you can experience all the excitement of BDSM with some easy positions that require little experience or flexibility (although the latter certainly helps).
Below you will find a collection of beginner-friendly BDSM sex positions. These are suitable for anyone that is new to BDSM and wants to see what type of fun it has to offer without feeling too intimidating.
Tied Bed Missionary
Let's start with something anyone can try. As the name suggests, you simply lie down in the missionary position, tying the wrists and ankles to the bed posts. You can also just tie the wrists and leave the ankles if you prefer.
This is beginner-friendly as we are all familiar with missionary sex on the bed, you just need to add some minor restraints! Scarves and ties are a good homemade options, while you can buy special bondage rope, cuffs, or restraints online.
Make sure the restraints are not too tight, leaving enough space to fit 2-3 fingers. Once one of you are tied up then the fun begins! You can add some teasing and foreplay before getting into the sex, while adding a blindfold into the mix makes for some awesome sensory play and an overall lack of contorl, helping experience the unique power dynamics that make BDSM so fun.
Bent Over Bondage
Another great choice for beginners, the bent over bondage position is basically a standard bent over sex position but with the addition of some restraints. This can be tying the wrists together, tying the ankles together, or binding both and then maintaining a bent over position as you have sex.
The more restrained you are, the harder it is to balance, so your partner may need to help hold you in position as they do their thing. This is all part of the fun though and should be easy enough to perform, although you may want to do some stretches first if you are not too flexible!
Rag Doll
If you love a bit of spooning then be sure to try out this bondage variation. Simply bind whoever is the little spoon's wrists together. They should be tied in front of them, giving up control of their hips and lower body to the big spoon, who can set the pace as they penetrate. Add some spanking if you like a bit of pain!
Chair Bondage
This one requires nothing but some restraints and a chair. One person sits down on the chair while the other binds their wrists and ankles to it, keeping them from moving. You can add some other BDSM toys into the mix, such as a blindfold and a mouth gag, giving an idea of what it feels to be the submissive role.
Also, because the person is sitting down in a chair, the position could not be easier to maintain. This makes it one of the best BDSM positions for beginners. Penetration can be difficult without a bondage style chair, although you can easily explore other fun things like oral sex, power play, sensation play etc.
Knees to Chest
Some flexibility may be needed for this position, otherwise it is very easy to do. One person lies down on their back and has their ankles bound together, after which the legs are raised upwards towards the chest.
Once the other person starts penetrating, lift the legs above their shoulders - you can even use the restraints to hold them in position around their neck! If you feel like taking this position up a notch, you can also bind the wrists above the head, giving a more contorted feel that also allows for deep, intense penetration.
Again, make doing some stretches before will make this easier!
Rough Rider
This one is a variation of the tied bed missionary, with the addition of some rough play that lets you experience mild pain. One person lies tied to the bed in the missionary position while the other gets on top. Once the sex begins, the bound person encourages the other to dig into their skin using their nails or teeth, causing some mild pain that can be incredibly arousing for both.
Make sure to discuss how much pain you want, adjusting the intensity to ensure everyone remains comfortable. Even some mild biting can be a great way to experience this form of BDSM, and you can easily switch roles.
Downward Dog
Lovers of doggy need to try this one, which involves bounding one persons hands behind their back while they lay in a modified doggystyle position. Lie flat on the stomach, using cuffs or a tie/scarf to bind the hands together behind the back.
Spread your legs and let them enter from behind, keeping your upper body flat while the hips remain raised. For some added excitement, the bound person can also be blindfolded, which adds a sense of unpredictability and anticipation to the mix.