Tips for BDSM Lovers - How to Write Your Dating Profile
BDSM lovers using dating site to find a partner is the new trend. You can find people that you would never be able to find in person. When you see an ad for a dating site, you usually see one geared towards a traditional dating site but there are plenty of less traditional ones out there. Including BDSM dating sites. When it comes to kink dating, you might be left wondering what to do when it comes to your profile.
Many dating how-to sites talk about how to write a biography for a traditional dating site while leaving out how to write a kink dating profile. We are going to look at what to do for such a site today.
Read What They Are Asking
The first thing that you need to do is read what the website is expecting you to put in your profile. Some people just start writing because they think they know what should be in a profile. This could lead people to completely ignoring your profile.
Each section should have a description on what you should put in that part of the profile. If they don't, try the site's blog. Oftentimes blogs of dating sites will have tips on how to write your profile for that site.
Tell The Truth
It might be tempting to write a white lie when creating your profile. You want to make yourself look really good. Don't. Any lies on your dating profile will eventually be exposed. Not only that, you are not going to find a match that will truly meet what you are looking for if you lie on your profile.
It is important to tell the truth when it comes to your relationship status and what kind of relationship you are looking for. Feelings and connections can get ruined if someone goes into a BDSM relationship expecting something that won't happen.
The most important reason to tell the truth is that BDSM relationships are all about truth. Without that trust you can't have a successful relationship where you can engage in whatever activities you want to.
Introduce Yourself
No matter what kind of dating site you are using you should make the first part of your profile introduce you. Use just your first name or a nickname and talk about you. This doesn't have to be too long but it should give the other person a general idea of who you are and what you like. It should also give them some topics to talk about when someone messages you.
Your introduction should be clean and truthful.
Your Passions
A great thing to talk about in your profile is your passions outside of BDSM. What do you like to do for fun? Do you like to play sports? How about board games? Etc. This will help people get an idea of who you are and what you like to do. It is a good way to get to know whether you will click with a person or not.
Use Your Photos
One of the biggest reasons that we have photos on our profiles is to sell ourselves. Use your text part of your profile to elaborate on your photos and tie into it to get the most out of your photos. Let people know what's going on in the photos or tie what you are talking about back to the photos.
People's imaginations can only do so much with text but when you can tie it back to something visual you can put a longer lasting image into their mind.
BDSM or No BDSM In The Profile?
A lot of people jump straight into their profile by adding BDSM likes and terms into their profile. This is something that might work on certain sites but not on others. What you want to do is look and see if the profile mentions BDSM in what should be in there. Unless there is a specific note that you should put your likes in your profile, we recommend leaving them out.
You are probably wondering how you can make a match if you don't have your BDSM likes in your profile. Almost all BDSM dating sites have a place to put what you are looking for or what you like. This is so that their filters can narrow down a profile based on likes.
The one exception to this would be to mention how experienced you are. You can do this without going into detail and without being dirty. A lot of people like to know how experienced someone is and most dating sites don't have that as an option. A brief little tag describing how experienced you are will do you wonders on most sites.
Write It Like An Ad
A good rule of thumb when writing your dating profile is to think of it as you are writing an ad because you essentially are. You are writing an ad for yourself on the kink dating site. The goal is to sell your profile page to the person who is reading it. That means making yourself appear as interesting as possible without lying.
What To Leave Out of Your Profile
There are some things that you want to leave out of your profile no matter what. This is for privacy reasons. Let's take a look at those topics:
- Your kids/family
- Your phone number
- Your work
- Anything that can be used to find you on other sites
It is also important to know what kind of information the site doesn't allow on profiles. Putting content that is not allowed in your profile could result in your account getting banned.
Dating sites have become so commonplace that there are many different options out there. That includes plenty of options for those who are looking for BDSM dating sites. Now that you know how to set up your dating profile, it is time to pick the right one. Make sure to take a look at all of the options out there, what works for one person might not be right for you or your area.