Bastinado Sex Play In BDSM
There are a lot of different kinks that you can engage in when you are exploring BDSM. Not everyone automatically knows what they will like so educating yourself about the different kinks out there is important. Today we are going to talk about bastinado, a type of impact play.
What is Bastinado?
Bastinado is a Spanish word that, when translated, literally means the act of caning. The traditional connotation for the word was connected to corporal punishment or interrogation. It is not just considered to be a form of punishment but a form of torture. Now bastinado has made its way into the bedroom.
Enjoyable Pain
During sex play, the goal is not to provide corporal punishment or to interrogate your partner. Instead, you are aiming for enjoyable pain. More than that, and you (or your partner) could wind up in the emergency department.
Many different parts of the body can be caned but when you are performing bastinado you are targeting a specific area, the bottom of your feet. Traditional bastinado is performed with a wooden stick/cane. It can also be performed with a baton.
For most people the point of bastinado is not the pain that is caused, although many find that enjoyable too, it is about the end results. After caning to the feet, a person isn't able to walk easily on their own. They will rely on their dominant in order to move about or they will have to crawl. The lack of mobility reinforces the idea of submission for the submissive and often provides a sense of enjoyment for the dominant.
Pain in the foot doesn't require that you hit the foot extremely hard. In fact, you don't need to hit hard at all. Mild whips to the feet will cause the desired effect. With the amount of joints and other parts of the foot, you can seriously injure your partner if the caning is not performed properly.
Safety Tips
Because of the safety issues revolving around bastinado, you will especially want to ensure that you have a safe word selected. Make sure that it is one that is easy to say when you are experiencing pain. Besides a safe word, you should have a word that indicates that you want to reduce the level of pain or slow down.
Before beginning, discuss the level of pain that you are interested in. The 1-10 scale typically works well, as long as you give your partner a 1-10 example. Or try rating your first few hits with the cane.
Get Into Bastinado
So many different ways of actually engaging in bastinado exist. A lot of people like to start with getting their partner aroused and tying them up. Simply starting the arousal process might make the whole experience dulled though.
One of the best ways to get into bastinado is to fully turn on both parties, get them both warmed up completely. That way, the submissive is already committed to the scene.
Across the board, the one basic requirement is that you remove shoes and socks. Both will significantly dull the overall experience. Other than that, there is no one way to engage in bastinado. Your tools can start as basic as a wooden spoon from the kitchen, all the way up to a custom-made cane made specifically for the job.
Any kink is worth trying at least once, especially one as popular as bastinado. Bastinado isn't a hard, or expensive, kink to get into. The first thing that you should do is to talk with your partner about testing out new boundaries, engaging in bastinado.