10 BDSM Submissive Tasks You Can Start Your Sub Off With
Getting into the world of BDSM can seem quite overwhelming. There are a lot of different things that you can try. To help you get started in the world of D/s relationship we are going to look at 10 basic BDSM submissive tasks you can start your sub off with.
1. Make Them Model
Modeling is a very basic BDSM task that you can have your submissive carry out. Tell them that you want them to model for you for a certain period of time. You can also tell them to model specific outfits or items that you like the most.
While modeling is traditionally done with a camera, only introduce a camera when you have consent and there is a level of trust established between dom and sub. A camera isn't needed to remember the poses that your partner can take on for you.
2. Assign Chores
Chores are something that need to get done anyways, why not make them a little more fun? You can have your submissive take up some of the household chores, but in a sexy way. Have them do the chores nude or in their underwear. Make it even more challenging for them by making them do the chores while you tease them.
One of the fun things about having a submissive do chores is that it is a BDSM task that you can give them to do regularly. For example, they could have to empty the dishwasher with just an apron on or vacuum naked.
Come up with something that works for both of you and that you both can enjoy.
3. Require Your Sub To Ask Permission
Establish a task for your submissive where they have to ask permission to do things that they would enjoy. It is important that you respect boundaries but remember that if it doesn't violate boundaries, asking permission doesn't have to be limited to the bedroom.
One of the biggest things your sub should have to ask permission for is to cum. Your sub should not be allowed to cum before you and should not be allowed ot cum before they are given permission.
4. Have Them Tell You a Naughty Story
Your partner's voice has power. One of those powers is the ability to turn you on. Have them put that power to work and give your sub the task of telling you naughty stories.
This works as a one off but can also be used as a daily task. They could tell you a naughty story before bed, for example. Make sure to give them details about what you expect from them, you don't want them telling a story that is too short if that isn't what you are expecting.
5. Chastity
Chastity is the act of refraining from playing with one's self but when it comes to BDSM it takes it to another level. BDSM chastity involves using devices that lock and prevent submissives from playing with themselves. Give your sub the task of wearing a chastity device for a certain period of time or until you give them back the key.
6. Give Them The Task of Experimenting
Experimenting is quite fun, we have all experimented sexually at times but it tends to be something we don't think about in the same way as we grow up. That doesn't mean we can't get back into experimenting. Give your submissive the job of experimenting with themselves while you watch. No matter how kinky or how experienced you are, there are always things you can experiment with. It can be as simple as trying more fingers or as complicated as trying multiple toys at the same time while using a gag.
7. Edging Tasks
Engaging in edging involves bringing your submissive right to the point where they are going to cum but denying them the fun of finishing. Give your partner the task of not allowing themselves to cum. While they try not to cum you get to play with them and do everything you can to make them cum. If they cum, you get to punish them.
Your edging task doesn't have to be done while you are there. You can also have them edge when they are away from you too.
8. Collaring Your Submissive
Collaring is a BDSM task that a lot of Dominants and submissives enjoy. It is the act of picking out a collar for your submissive to wear. A wide variety of collars can be found, from simple dog collars to locking, metal submissive collars. Pick one that works for your kinks.
The collar can be worn when you are together or at all times. It depends on your limits and relationship.
9. Have Your Sub Wear Connected Sex Toys
Today is the age of connected devices and that has reached the BDSM sex toy world too. You can get a good number of different connected sex toys. They are also available in both male and female versions for all subs. Give your submissive the task of putting their connected sex toy in every day at a certain time.
As long as your submissive can have their phone in their pocket at work, you can even enjoy turning their toy on while they are at work. You can even consider letting other people control your sub's toy.
10. Assign Humiliating Tasks
We think about humiliation as something that can be bad but for a lot of people it can also be a turn on. Assigning your submissive some humiliating tasks can turn them on quickly while also establishing their place as a sub. This is another area that you want to make sure that you are following their limits but the sky is the limit when it comes to assigning humiliating tasks.
Make sure to talk to your sub about what they find humiliating. Different people find different tasks humiliating.
Take a look at each one of these BDSM tasks and decide which ones are most likely to fit in your Dom/sub relationship. You can use as many of them or as few of them as you like. Ideally, you will use these as a starting point to come up with your own tasks or as a way to start up and fire your creativity.