The Kinky Ways to Spice up Your Sex Life
Being monogamous is to be applauded, but over time, sex can become a little tired and stale. Spicing things up in the bedroom is not as difficult as you think. And there are several ways to go from drab to dynamic with your sex life. BDSM is one way to go, but you do need to be with a partner who is open to things like bondage, domination, submission, and masochism, with a little spanking thrown in for good measure.
There is a very fine line between pleasure and pain, and BDSM allows you to not only explore that line, but to straddle it with ease. If this type of sexual activity is of interest to you, there are a few things you should know before getting started.
It is not good for everyone
The most obvious detail is that BDSM is not for everyone, which means you should never perform any type of domination or bondage on a partner who is uncomfortable with the idea. The best thing you can do is sit down with your partner and talk about what is and isn't acceptable inn your sex life. It may be that you ease into things slowly, starting put with some light spanking, or perhaps with one of you tied to the bed while the other tempts and teases with their fingers and tongue, and perhaps a few toys.
A safe word
It is easy to get carried away when you introduce BDSM into the bedroom, which is why it is important that you and your partner come up with a safe word. This is a word that is said aloud when an individual has reached the point of becoming uncomfortable or in pain. Everyone has different pain threshold, and what may be pleasurable to you may actually be painful for your partner. There should never be any sort of judgment when one of you "taps out" using the safe word, as this is meant to be a pleasurable experience.
Do research
Another good idea is to do a little research before you get involved in the BDSM lifestyle. Watch videos with your partner to get some ideas about things that you can do. If you both get turned on by specific acts, then it's probably fair to suggest that you will enjoy performing them on one another. Have some sort of plan in place, and create scenarios that will be exciting to the dominant partner, as well as the one playing the submissive role. The more creative you get with your role playing, the more exciting BDSM becomes.
Sex toys
Take a trip to your local sex shop, or go online if you are a little shy about such things, and get the items that you need for your BDSM needs. It is possible to use household items for role-playing and spanking, but it's better to invest a little in toys that are made specifically for that purpose. These products will still deliver the intended sting of pleasure, but they will do so in a way that is pleasurable and fun. Think about joining an online BDSM forum for tips and ideas to really take your sex life in a wonderful new direction. You may even find some new partners to play along with.