Do's And Don'ts Of Online BDSM Dating
Online BDSM dating is a great way to find matches in the BDSM world. You don't have to worry about finding people who aren't interested in the BDSM world for one. It also opens you up to people you wouldn't have otherwise met. But just because you are dating online doesn't mean there aren't do's and don'ts of using online BDSM dating sites. Let's explore some of the biggest do's and don'ts so that you know how to optimize your chances of finding people online.
Don't Jump The Gun
Stating off a message with something sexual or something that only focuses on BDSM. Just because you know the person is into similar things, you don't have an invitation to just launch into sexual messaging. It is also advisable that you don't get overly personal in the first message.
Do Have A Good Opener
You first message should hook the user and be personal. An original message for each user helps to show that you aren't just copy and pasting to everyone you are messaging. Trying to find a something on their profile to mention in the first message will show that you have read the message, which is important.
Don't Have Your Page Be All About BDSM
Unless you are creating a profile on a BDSM dating website specifically for hookups, you don't want to have your page entirely full of BDSM content. People won't be able to get a true gauge of who you are and won't be able to make a connection with you. This will often result in people avoiding your profile.
Do Have A Thorough Profile
To get the most of your profile, try to make the majority of your profile should contain information about yourself. Information should include social stuff that people want to know about you. Think first date material. Don't get overly personal and try to make the other person laugh without looking like a try hard.
Don't Lie Or Stretch The Truth
Lying or stretching the truth on your profile might make you look like a super hero or someone that is perfect on paper. But everyone has flaws, and it is those flaws that make us attractive to others. People will feel weird about your profile if it feels too good to be true.
Do Be Honest
If you are looking to find someone who is a good match for you, you need to be honest. Don' be afraid to say your are quiet, or maybe that you are overly outgoing. Also be honest about what you are looking for. Don't say you are looking for a casual hookup if you are looking for something serious, for example.
Don't Just Write Your Profile And Hit Submit
You might be tempted to write your profile and just get it done with. This is a common urge. You don't want to do this though. Too much errors can lead to people not being interested in your profile. A quick one and done on the profile page might also lead you to missing information that you might want to convey.
Do Use Spell And Grammar Check
Scammers don't use spelling and grammar check, as such, people tend to believe spelling and grammatical errors are a sign of a fake profile. They are also a major turnoff for most people. It shows that you aren't willing to put time into creating a profile.
Don't Post A Large List Of Dislikes
It is okay to not like something, and you can even list a few things that you don't like on your profile. If your profile is full of things that you don't like, people will get the wrong idea. You will sound picky, a pain, and full of opinions, unwilling to change.
Do Have A Diverse Profile
Instead of posting just what you don't like or what you like, create a diverse profile that contains enough information for people to get a good feel of who you are. Include likes, dislikes, information about yourself, information about what you are looking for, and so on. Give people a good, rounded image, of who you are.
Remember that everyone is different, but these do's and don'ts are general to help make your profile get the most matches possible. Many of these focus on your dating profile, but remember, they also extend to your messages. Most importantly, remember to be open with people.